Thursday, November 4, 2010
Blog 42 - Career vs. Children.
So yesterday, instead of studying for my chemistry 201H quiz, I decided to have a ridiculously long conversation with they guys on the 8th floor about life. Ever since I can remember, i've wanted to be a doctor. I've always wanted to be a pediatrician, to go to Sri Lanka after I finish my studies and volunteer a year or two, and practice medicine for my life. This had always seemed totally okay, I mean you know, go to school, get your degree, then have kids and volunteer. Then, we sat down and thought about it. My undergrad is four years, then medical school is 4 years, and then your residency is a minimum of 3 years. If i'm 17 right now, i'll be done with ALL of that when i'm 28, and then i have to find a job, and if I want to specialize that'll take even longer. When does the whole falling in love, getting married, having kids and volunteering thing happen? At the rate the world is going now, doctors will be working ridiculous hours because of the deficiency of doctors right now. Do I even have time to look after children if I have children? Am I thinking too hard about things I don't need to think about too soon? Sometimes I think it's ridiculous that i'm thinking about this right now but then i'm like, but really its important. I REALLY want to be a doctor, but I REALLY want children too. Do you have to choose? Do I need to be content with being a pediatrician and seeing kids all day rather than having my own children? maybe having a dog to make up for it? I don't know, maybe i'm thinking too hard about this right now. I guess i'll just see how things go, and chill out for now.
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I think about this all the time. I wanted to study biology and go to med school to become a dermatologist. Well Chem and I didn't really get a long last year so I took a different route this year but now I have to think about what I want to do with my life, children and all of the above that you are thinking about too! It's not ridiculous at all to start thinking about your future like that and start planning ahead!
ReplyDeleteIt seems that whenever you have a plan set it never turns out the way you want it to. Like in the movies there's always people focused on their jobs until the fall in love or something unexpected happens. I don't think you're thinking to hard about it, but don't stress about it either! It sounds like a pretty solid plan to me.
ReplyDeleteI think you should definitely go with being a doctor. I believe that there is a plan for everyone's life, and if you are meant to have a husband, and children, then you will have husband and children with whichever route you take. I also think that if you make good decisions, you will have no regrets. You will raise your kids the right way, and marry a perfect guy for you. Also, 28 is young. if you live to 90, then you won't even be a third way through your life yet. I don't think you are overthinking, but I do think that you have nothing to worry about.
ReplyDeleteThis is crazy that you are mentioning this now. I guess there is a new study out that most women in their twenties have decided that 30 is a good time to start looking for a guy as husband material when it comes to career minded women. The study went on to say that if you know the guy for a year, get engaged, plan the wedding and get married, that by the time you are 34 you are ready to have kids. Of course now biology kicks in and by 35 the chances of birth defects goes up. What are we to do? It seems we weren't physically made for all of this, but we were mentally wired to have it all. I think there is a way, things just won't be the same as the way I was raised.
ReplyDeleteYeah definitely just wait and see how life goes, don't waste your time worrying about it now, one day it will all just make sense for you.
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